Wednesday, October 1, 2014

IWSG: Permission

Recently I went to a training for managers at work.
The topic: Overcoming Mistakes.
What?? But I swear! I didn't make the mistake, YOU made the mistake...
by thinking I made the mistake.
See? It's all good now.
 
 
I'll admit, some trainings I feel I'm IN the Peanut cartoon literally listening to the teacher do it's "wah wah wah" sounds. Yeah. This one was up there. Till one thing hit:
 
 
PERMISSION!
 
I'm going to make this quick and pain "wah wah wah" free. In the writing or personal world we create, we hold a certain standard of ourselves and others. We generally won't admit them, but come on, it's there. But from now on, the change that will move you forward is the word: PERMISSION.
 
And not just giving, but ALLOWING yourself to ASK for permission. What?? Okay, here's what I mean. I want to write when the kids go to bed and the hubs watches TV, but I feel it'll take that special time we see each other for more than an hour away. I texted him how important my writing is to me and how I wanted that bit of time to write when I needed and asked for his support. And he of course said "I support you, honey!" Once I heard that green light, I was guilt free. I knew he was okay, and now I was okay.
 
Now to GIVE yourself permission looks more like this:
  • It's okay she's a size 2 because I won't break a bone when I fall in my size 10 pants.
  • Tonight I just want some SOA time, and I'll write another day.
  • This stress zit builds character, not awkward looks...staring right at it.
  • Who cares if I don't write daily. I'm my own writer at my own speed.
  • Yeah, I still don't get punctuation do's and don'ts but so what? I don't get paid to.

The best part of allowing and giving yourself permission in life, it's a relaxation technique freely available.
Allow and Give yourself permission to be you and to work more towards who you are and not who you want people to think you are, or who you admire. They're already taken. Always be your lovable self. That's what we grew to admire in the first place.
 
What's one thing you're going to give yourself permission on, or ask permission about? 

Monday, September 22, 2014

Feistytude hits the Streets!!

WANNA SEE MY ALTER-ALTER EGO?
YOU KNOW, THE ONE THAT IF I WERE A MONSTER IN
TARA TYLER'S BROKEN BRANCH FALLS THIS IS WHAT I'D SAY?
 
CLICK THE PORTAL TO BE WHISKED AWAY....
(barf bags given upon request)
http://taratylertalks.blogspot.com/
What would be YOUR MONSTER NAME, LOOK, AND PERSONALITY?

Monday, September 8, 2014

Remembering Tina Downey



LIFE AND DEATH IS BLACK AND WHITE.


BUT THE TIME BETWEEN IS A BEAUTY OF COLOR. 

 


WE WILL MISS YOUR ARRAY OF COLORS, TINA. 

Wednesday, September 3, 2014

IWSG: Cha-cha-cha-CHANGES...

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AHHHH....yes.
Many people do it... they make change.
No, not breaking a $1 for some quarters... I mean life changes, dang it!!
Sorry. Blood pressure. Remember your blood pressure. (smoothes back hair)
 
Can you turn it to the 'blow my mind' setting?? 
As I was saying, some fab changes occurred in my world and I'm so thankful for them. Some very personal, some long overdue, and some right here on this blog. See? I'm now a Russian mafia girl in a shabby chic barn. But that's just my disguise in Hollywood, butch.
 
Some of the changes even caused stress triggers to go away.
Me?? Stress?? Blood pressure!! (sigh)
 
Just calling in my hourly calm down meds.
My most recent/favorite change happened between my writing bestie, Elizabeth Seckman, and I as we went over a few things for our collaboration. And BAM! it hit. A fresh spin on the plot. It was like Valley Girl OMG!! Best change LIKE EVA! And a change that makes me even more excited about our book.
How is this possible??
 
Here are 5 pics of CHA-CHA-CHA-CHANGES.
 Which do you think applies most to you lately, and why???
I want DETAILS PEOPLE!! (including your bank account/routing numbers.....)


Monday, August 18, 2014

Queries: When Literary Agent Sarah Davies Called Me...

When I got the email announcing I'd won a 15 minute phone call query critique with literary agent Sarah Davies...I pissed myself. Sarah Davies is literally the only agent I've had my eye on. After changing my outfit, I got prepared. Sarah and I discussed dates, times, and kissing British Guards over several emails. I nervously awaited what she thought of my query for Living RunAway.
(literally redid query before hitting *send*)

Then...RIIIIIINNNNNGGG
 (heart twerk)
"Hello? This is Tammy."
 British accent: "Tammy? This is Sarah Davies!"
"Sarah? THE Sarah??? OH MY GOOOOSH!"
(kidding!! That was just my inner thoughts)
 
The rest will remain forever embedded. A 15 min win became a 45 min convo, and I would have kept going if she wasn't so busy. (sigh) Luckily, she liked my query as we went line by line discussing where to tighten and emphasize. (her eyes are geniuses!) She hoped to hear from me again, to which I replied "ohhhh, you will!" 
 
 SARAH DAVIES' GOLDEN QUERY ADVICE!

1. FIND AGENTS - gather 10-15 agents. Get to know them, what they represent, what you have to offer them, and especially what they're guidelines are. (always follow the guidelines!!!) If you cut and paste agent names, at least do the correct one! (Sarah's #1 pet peeve) Send it how they want it sent and at the appropriate email.

2. QUERY INTRO - make it an easy, quick read. Include if it's a story, novella, or novel after the genre and title. Do add in a condensed pitch and if able - a comparison. (comparisons should not be best sellers just like average people should not sing Celine or Whitney! Comparisons ex: Gone Girl meets 13 Reasons Why...) Two things to avoid: stalker talk and bragging.

3. QUERY SYNOPSIS MEAT - 2-3 paragraphs in length. Make it have karate moves with quick sentences, punchy, and tightened. (she took three of my sentences and converted it to one with listing events by commas instead - genius!!)

4. QUERY ENDING - talk about you!! That one surprised me, but she wanted to know more personal things! I work full time (nope!). Okay... I'm a site leader working full time (nope!) Oh! I work full time as a site leader with mentally disabled adults providing state mandated care. I'm also a full time mom of 4, and so my writing hits the keyboards mainly at night. (yes!) See? Now she can see if I'm "interesting" to her. (but don't TMI) Next, list anything published and if you're an administrator/co-administrator to a writer's blog group, FB group, etc. Or belong to a writer's group. (If not, don't sweat it. Not everyone is!)

5. BONUS SUGGESTIONS - if you're writing a series, each book has to be able to stand alone. Don't write book 2 if book 1 hasn't been picked up. (you may waste your time) Take your time!! Don't rush and get hurt quick because you turned in your test too early and didn't check your answers. Be certain it's everything you hope represents you! Get on social media! Sarah said I should join Twitter to see what publishing houses or agents are looking for at certain periods. (I signed up that day).

6. INTERESTING OPINION - don't rely on writing to pay the way. Sarah said she's pleased to see when someone has a job. I see what she means. And it's a polite way of saying take care of yourself, what ever that looks like, and don't solely rely on a dream to be published. Be realistic. I know for me, I have to work. It's not an option. I would never quit my job on a whim that I think I'm sitting on a gold mine story. I have a family to care for and until that gold mine story hits movie status (sigh)...I'm gonna keep working. I know everyone will differ on opinions about this, but again, it's what taking care of yourself looks like for you. (thinking starving artist but for the writer. don't starve!!)


I'd like to thank Natalie Aguirre for hosting Jessie Humphries and Sarah Davies on her blog, which in turn allowed me to enter for this contest. Hugs to you ladies!! And especially to Sarah. May our paths cross again!
 
So...did you learn anything new????