Recently I went to a training for managers at work.
The topic: Overcoming Mistakes.
What?? But I swear! I didn't make the mistake, YOU made the mistake...
by thinking I made the mistake.
See? It's all good now.
I'll admit, some trainings I feel I'm IN the Peanut cartoon literally listening to the teacher do it's "wah wah wah" sounds. Yeah. This one was up there. Till one thing hit:
I'm going to make this quick and pain "wah wah wah" free. In the writing or personal world we create, we hold a certain standard of ourselves and others. We generally won't admit them, but come on, it's there. But from now on, the change that will move you forward is the word: PERMISSION.
And not just giving, but ALLOWING yourself to ASK for permission. What?? Okay, here's what I mean. I want to write when the kids go to bed and the hubs watches TV, but I feel it'll take that special time we see each other for more than an hour away. I texted him how important my writing is to me and how I wanted that bit of time to write when I needed and asked for his support. And he of course said "I support you, honey!" Once I heard that green light, I was guilt free. I knew he was okay, and now I was okay.
Now to GIVE yourself permission looks more like this:
- It's okay she's a size 2 because I won't break a bone when I fall in my size 10 pants.
- Tonight I just want some SOA time, and I'll write another day.
- This stress zit builds character, not awkward looks...staring right at it.
- Who cares if I don't write daily. I'm my own writer at my own speed.
- Yeah, I still don't get punctuation do's and don'ts but so what? I don't get paid to.
The best part of allowing and giving yourself permission in life, it's a relaxation technique freely available.
Allow and Give yourself permission to be you and to work more towards who you are and not who you want people to think you are, or who you admire. They're already taken. Always be your lovable self. That's what we grew to admire in the first place.
What's one thing you're going to give yourself permission on, or ask permission about?