Friday, May 6, 2016

Closure

Publicly, it's hard for me to dig deep and WANT to post about something "serious". It's unexpected. I know. Trust me. But as of late, a certain something has really...made me think. Really racked my brain about friendships among writers.

When I came back to writing in 2013, I felt the support from the virtual writing world, uplifting me to want to be a better writer. But to every good is the bad. There were times I felt pushed down indirectly by something said or done. As new writers, or returning, we ALL feel this.

But, I get irritated when people treat others like THEY'RE new to any of this. And if they were, why does that matter? No one should have to give out their history, credentials, or life story on what makes them a "valid" writer. Or make others feel like they can't join their "super exclusive" writing clique. Oh, the writing cliques...don't get me started on that H.S. rewind.

I harbor certain old feelings to this day, tattooed in my heart, burning fresh and new each time I'm reminded of my follies. Sometimes, I give myself enough courage and say forget it, I'm better off without those grudges. But those "sometimes" are few and far between since recent events. I really just wish for a specific closure, but I'm not sure I'll get it.

Closure. What a word to break down. Close-sure. A sure-close. If only it were that simple. If only...

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20 comments:

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Who's been making you feel new and inferior? I'll go all Ninja on them.

Pat Hatt said...

The cat shall pee on their head while their asleep in bed, that will give closure lol

Debra She Who Seeks said...

Fuck 'em all, I say. People who act like that are just broadcasting their own inadequacies and insecurities.

H.R. Sinclair, Southpaw said...

I'm sorry you're dealing with poopyheads--and that is what they are.

JoJo said...

I think you are always going to find those elitists in every walk of life. I've seen it during my Grateful Dead years...I used to call those fans 'Deader Than Thou'.

Cheryl said...

I am new to your blog so we haven't had a chance to get to know each other BUT I hate that you are being made to feel badly or feeling you need to justify that your are a "writer". That is just hooey...all of us that "write" are indeed writers. Just as in all forms of arts and talents people have different tastes but it could be said, that whatever you write is equal or better than the most narcissistic elitist's writings ...especially if the person reading your writing finds joy in it. I might write drivel but if my small band of readers love my drivel, they might think it's better then Hemingway Faulkner. They would be wrong, of course but my point is we are all writers when we write.

The Silver Fox said...

Like you need that aggravation! Screw 'em. You don't have to justify yourself, and I think you know it.

S.K. Anthony said...

Mah sleeves are rolled up and I'm ready to fight. I can sure-close up my fist to . . . hee hee hee, had to do that, anyway . . .

I'm not a violent person, but no one should be pushed down or treated like they have to pass some kind of test to be a part of the writer world. No one has to be accepted. We're writers because it's who we are. It's in our souls. And I wan't to say, "Who cares? Move on! You don't need validation!" but I understand how demeaning and hurt we can feel.

Besides, I've read @PIMPMAMA. You got this!!!! :D

Angela Brown said...

Sending you hugs... lots and lots of hugs!

Annalisa Crawford said...

Writing comes with the need for a thick skin. It's hard to develop, but worthwhile in the long-run. I hope you feel better soon. Sending lots of positive writer vibes your way :-)

klahanie said...

Hey Tammy aka Tam-bare,

I usually have a bit of a good-natured joke with you, my lovely friend. Today, I wont mess around. Never mind any bullshit cliques who think they have some sort of smug, exclusive superiority. The reality is that your writing is your baby and you continue to sense the passion of it all. Those of us who support you, those who really care, will always be here for you.

Take care and virtual hugs from Penny the Jack Russell dog and modest internet superstar and yep, her alleged human, Gary. Okay, I sort of ended up with a bit of fun.

Gary

M said...

OMG, yes. I've been going through this myself. I was talking to my mother about it, and she said, "Sounds like high school. But you're a grownup now and you don't have to relive high school if you don't want to." Unfortunately, you're going to find these types in every group. The only way to avoid it entirely is to become a hermit. And while that's often appealing, it's not practical. We need each other (or some of each other; there are some we could do without, I'm sure).

I've been backing away slowly from certain situations myself. And while I also yearn for closure, I know splitting that open will actually only make it worse. I must let it scab over and heal. It may leave a scar, but that's better than the alternative.

Sheena-kay Graham said...

Sometimes you just have to walk away knowing either that you messed up and need to move on or whoever or whatever is bothering you is not going to change itself and get away from it. Closure is more of a word than a true experience and sometimes sits right up there with fantasy. Love the gif you chose that that was one of the funniest scenes from 'Mean Girls'. Still remember that male student shouting she didn't attend the school. Rainbows indeed.

Elephant's Child said...

This reader thanks all writers. Fervently. You enrich my world.
But why, oh why is it easier to accept and take on board the negatives people give us than a compliment?

Tammy Theriault said...

i can't tell you how much everyone has brightened my day! Thank you

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Susan Flett Swiderski said...

I trust you're back to feeling like your old perky self now. Don't let those PITA nay-sayers get you down. You're a bad-ass writer, girl, no matter what some clique of elitist low-lifes try to say or do to build themselves up by putting you down. Phooey on them!