That's some scary #$%!
It feels like chasing someone and as they're getting further away I yell, "But wait! I have SO much more to say! Please don't go! Please don't leave me!!!!"
Then they call the cops and I'm in jail writing a post for everyone to send bail money. Not my best moment, but I really don't want it to end!
I want to keep saying more and more, but that's not how books work. Unless you're Janet Evanovich and in total denial that Ranger or Joe will settle down with Stephanie (people, we're on book 21...it's safe to say she'll be single forever).
As I near the end of my MS, I've realized a few things about being a writer that I wanted to share.
1. WE'RE ALL STUDENTS
I was such an annoying hemorrhoid when I dug back into writing (pun intended). But, now I see I only thought I was annoying because someone made me FEEL like I was annoying. Look, I didn't know how to do everything. I was vulnerable, unsure, and anxious. I was a newbie at this stuff! Gimme a break! No one learns unless someone teaches them, and we ALL could be taught something new. If someone comes to you and you're like holy hell shut up, remember what it felt like when you first started.
2. WRITERS UNDERSTAND WRITERS
Ever profess something writerly to a non-writerly person and you feel like either their engaged to be nice, or engaged because mentally they're totally somewhere else? You're not alone! And to continue not feeling alone, stay buds with your writing buds. If you don't foster some of those little relationships, in some form or another, slowly your support isn't as strong and you start to feel totally out of the loop. Build stronger support bras! I mean...bonds...James Bond. Sorry. I got off track. But you understand because you're a writer, right?
3. DON'T FEEL STUPID FOR ASKING QUESTIONS
Again, this goes back to my newbie days where you don't feel stupid for asking till someone makes you feel stupid for asking. But you're not stupid for asking! So stop feeling that way! I'm still messaging my writer buds for information and how-to's. So what? They're my personal Google minus crazy images and pop-up ads. Plus, I get emojis. :D I'm not a scholar, and neither are any of us, really, but ya'll are a trust fund baby of knowledge wealth..and I just turned 18 (like many, many years ago), so anty up!
4. REMEMBER YOUR ROOTS
I've seen it before where a writer "changes their colors" because of various reasons. Some it's the book deals, the writer click they're now in, or the continuous rejections. In my book, I hand force (because you know, I'm the writer here) my MC to say "who was I before this all happened"? So I must ask, before being a writer, who were you? See if you've let things go to your head either because of your writing success (snob) or writing failures (pessimist). And since you write you're OWN story in life, make sure you're not doing anything in there for the wrong reason to others, and especially to yourself.
When you close down your computer or laptop, and put
down your cellphones, remember there's still you to take care of.
And me...because I'm in jail, remember?
In a nutshell:
Ask stupid questions about your own roots from understanding writers since they're students, too.
Totally makes sense...