Monday, October 22, 2012

Letting Go BLOGHOP & Healthy Writing Club UPDATE

     Kyra Lennon hosted a blog hop today about "Letting Go" in sync with her book released titled, "If I Let You Go". Check it out on her blog! Congrats, Kyra.

   So what have I let go? Other than 4 babies from my belly, a contract to be a supermodel, a deal to be on a famous TV series about 6 friends living in New York (I really shouldn't have passed that one up...), and performing live at Madison Square Garden?  (ok, only one of those are true :)~ ) Well, actually, an identity that wasn't me!

    Sounds creepy and stockerish doesn't it? But, it's all true, minus the sickly visual of a man hiding in the treehouse looking at me doing my 99th brush of my hair. I'm sure all of us go through the moment, not the treehouse! We think it's time to let go, time to be someone we aren't. That was me straight out of high school.


 
    For ten years I was someone I wasn't. I did things, I knew were not the right course for me. It ranged from all the bad things you can think of that happens when you go clubbing almost nightly to parties when your an army wife. Nothing was untouched, I guess you could say, other then everything I grew up knowing. My integrity, my self worth, on and on. Then one day when my life seemed to be at it's lowest, it dawned on me, "I liked myself better when I was going to church." So, that's what I did. I literally left behind that life, including the husband that came with it, and moved on to change to where I am now.
                                                         (sailing with my son)
   I don't regret ANYTHING I went through. It will help me with raising my kids through those tough teenage years, because I've done those terrible things they do. It will help me with friends, as they battle their own wars and come for advice, and I can say I'm not speaking from inexperience. It helps me to be more understanding of people's hardships and more patient with imperfections in people. And it helps me the MOST to appreciate being the person that works on following "the correct path", and enjoys the journey. This is me now, and I have let go.

****ON A BRIGHTER NOTE: HEALTHY WRITING CLUB UPDATE***

What a fat burning pill it is to try to get time to go to the gym. Grrrr... I use to go four times a week at 8pm doing my Crossfit workouts, but I found I was rushing kids to bed just to do so. I gave it up, wish I could say 10lbs, but no, going to the gym late. Last week, with a friend's suggestion, I went at the butt crack of dawn for two days at 6:30am. Ouch! It hurt, but was so worth it. It gave me time to be with the kids at bedtime doing stories again, and to be with my husband. Then I go running the two other days. Score, something that works! "Oh, Happy Day...."
                                                                (yeah, crossfit hurts!)

46 comments:

Cynthia said...

Saying hello from the blog hop. Thanks for sharing. We live and we learn. Some of your experiences could probably make interesting stories, I would think. =)

Kyra Lennon said...

What an excellent entry for the bloghop! I love your honesty, and I particularly love that you don't regret anything!

Thanks for joining in! :D

Stephen Tremp said...

We've all been with people and knew we were doing things we shouldn't be. Glad to hear you have no regrets though.

jaybird said...

I'm with Kyra- thanks for your honesty! It is so refreshing.

Making those kind of life altering choices is always difficult. But having no regrets and knowing you made the right choices, is priceless!!

Suzanne Furness said...

Thanks for sharing your story. I am pleased that you have no regrets, we have to learn by mistakes so that we can grow and more forward.

Samantha May said...

Good for you for turning your life around! I've done some really crazy things too and I've found that going to church does help me.

CM said...

What an interesting short story about your life. Glad you are in a better place now. Good luck with the early morning workouts!

Teresa Coltrin@Journaling Woman said...

I love this post. We've all been there. The good part is when we finally realize where we are at that moment is where we shouldn't be and do something about it.

T

Tammy Theriault said...

Thanks everyone for your kind words and support on my story!

Trisha said...

Sounds like you are one of the lucky ones who has gone through some low times but come out the other end to be happier and healthier!

Jackie said...

It's inspiring that it brought out positives for you to share and help with others who may need it. Thanks for sharing your story.

Nicki Elson said...

Your Letting Go post hit on something I've been realizing lately - that the mistakes we make in life are not there just for us to learn from, but to keep us open minded when others mess up and need our forgiveness and/or counsel. It's excellent that you can see that so clearly. Great story.

Christine Rains said...

Amazing post! You're an inspiration to have gone through rough times and come out stronger at the end.

Tammy Theriault said...

Trish: we are ever so lucky to survive!

Jackie: thanks for reading!

Nicki: very true...

Christine: much stronger!

T.J. said...

Ah the memories of being an Army wife! BTDT. I too did a lot of things that helped me to become the nutcase I am today. No regrets either :) TY for your honesty!

Tammy Theriault said...

T.J. - kinda funny how u get what i mean by "memories of an army wife"...ahhh yes.

Carol Kilgore said...

I loved reading your story. Thank you for sharing it. I think you have a memoir in the making. Or much to choose from as you create many great fictional characters.

I'm not really a morning person, but I write and walk in the mornings, too. Surprised me, too, how much easier it is!

L.G. Keltner said...

Great entry! I'm glad you found your way back to the life that makes you happy. It's good that you have no regrets. After all, why regret something that taught you a lot about yourself and made you stronger? Thanks for sharing!

Morgan said...

Love your story, Tammy...

It *is* such an amazing thing to look back and see how much we've grown and how much we've changed... thank goodness, right? Man. I know I'm grateful for my experiences/mistakes because each day I can strive to be a better person. Thanks SO MUCH for sharing!

Scribbles From Jenn said...

Forgetting those things that are behind... always a good choice.

Tammy Theriault said...

Carol: walking in the morning...sounds good. nothing like seeing the day wake up!

L.G. amen & so true!

Morgan: it's like when we look at our kids as see how they've changed.

Jenn: thanks for reading! ;)~

Elise Fallson said...

Love your post! It is awesome that you were able to dump the negative in your life and turn yourself around to become the "real" you. I'm so glad you don't regret anything because you're right, you can use your past experiences to help you make better decisions now.

You do crossfit? You are my hero. :D

Nick Wilford said...

There is no point in regret as we can't change the past, we can only learn from it and take that forward. I'm glad you have done that and you're in a great place now!

Kelley Lynn said...

It must not be easy, but thanks so much for sharing this.

Tammy Theriault said...

elise: do i get paid for being your hero? cuz if so, i'm alllll fo it! :0~

Nick: thanks,i'm in such a better place!

Kelley: not easy, but nice to vent :)

Peaches Ledwidge said...

Tammy, thanks for sharing your story. What about writing a book about it? That's what I did with my story.

Patricia Stoltey said...

Walking away from what we have and moving toward something unknown is always scary. Yes, I've done that a few times. No regrets.

Debra Ann Elliott said...

Powerful! Thank you for stopping by my blog and your kind comments. Also, thanks for the follow and following back.

jaybird said...

Tammy- I just wanted to add that I answered the questions and accepted the Liebster award on my blog. Thanks Again!! *Hugs*

LisaAnn said...

It's very brave to put yourself out there and tell the world what you have been through. I very much admire that, and I'm also proud of you for going to the gym so early. I have never been able to get into that routine!

Emily R. King said...

Look at you, missy! Nearly 100 followers!

Great post, Tammy. Thanks for sharing your past with us. I'm so glad you're writing again. :)

Medeia Sharif said...

Awesome post. It's inspiring, because others aren't living the life they're meant to live, but turning around is possible.

Tammy Theriault said...

Peaches: great idea!

patricia: that's right, no regrets!

Debra: no prob!

jaybird: awesome, i'll go look!

lisann: it's definitely not easy to wake up early, that is not my style by any means

emily: i'm glad, too

medeia: it sure is!

Leslie S. Rose said...

Howdy. Thanks for popping over to my blog so I could come here and read this kickin' post. You have quite a story. Thanks for sharing.

Clare said...

Letting go of your younger self is sometimes tough to do, but it's often for the best, especially if it benefits your children and makes you a better person/ parent. It sounds like you made the right choice. Thanks for sharing your experience of letting go.

Also really enjoyed your healthy writing club update. It's great that you've found a way to balance keeping fit, writing, and being their for your children. Good luck with your keep fit. :)

deathwriter said...

Gym workouts are much better in the morning, even though it feels like they aren't. I like that I go in completely grubby, do my workout, go home and I'm ready to shower and start the day.
Good luck!

Tyrean Martinson said...

I love your letting go post, and your healthy writing club update. It's tough to let go of bad habits, and gain good ones. Way to Go on your early workouts!

Tammy Theriault said...

leslie: thanks for visiting!

clare: ur right, it benefited the children greatly for sure, granted i never had my kids during the worst of it. just when i was trying to get out of it.

deathwriter: amen, so true!

tyrean: thanks a bunch girl!

Empty Nest Insider said...

Sounds like you've led quite an interesting life, and have done a great job of evaluating what's important. I look forward to getting to know you better. Julie

Candilynn Fite said...

Congrats on letting go. Do you find that writing it down helps tremendously with letting go? I do. Wow, and look at you go with your workouts. :)

VikLit said...

Congrats on the letting go, what an interesting and honest post. Newly following you here, thank you for visiting my blog.

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

What an awesome change in your life!

Joylene Nowell Butler said...

You're honesty is refreshing, Tammy. But as one who came from a rough start, I also know you suffered unnecessary pain and anguish. I'm very happy to meet you. Here's to a long and prosperous career.

Lexa Cain said...

You have to live your life, make mistakes, and follow winding paths before you know who you really are and what you really want. For some of us, it takes 50 years or more to accept who we are. I'm glad you regret nothing. You wouldn't be who you are now if you hadn't gone through everything before.
Have a Happy Halloween! :-)

Tammy Theriault said...

empty nest: thanks, i look forward to getting to know you, too!

candilynn: i've not written it down, not sure i want to dredge certain parts back up

viklit: thanks for reading!

alex: a much needed one!

joylene: cheers!

lexa: great thoughts!

Beth Barany said...

Awesome for getting back into your workouts. I don't think I could do 6:30am Crossfit workouts. Hats off!